So yes… since the last time i said that i was getting married… many things have happened… so many things to get started on and as for  now… i’m taking a short break from all forms of wedding preparations…

Getting things off the ground really made me go insane for a bit there… venues to look, budgets to consider, number of people, colours, cards, etc etc etc … so really, i think i was right from the start… there’s this unspoken strategy when trying to get one’s wedding organised. It’s no job for the fainthearted. Thank goodness, i’ve had experience in dealing with events that really, i looked at it from a job perspective… so it was easy. Friends even made fun of my spreadsheet but really, if it helps, why not?! Some say i’ve a long way to go since its still months ahead, some say otherwise. To me, i’d just wanted to sort out stuff before it’s too late.

And like any job, the job is easy, dealing with the people part was difficult. So, with good friends and a cool hubby-to-be, i worked on doing the groundwork first, and then only got the others in. Like sorting out the dates, the colour scheme, the budgets, the card design, the venue for the wedding party (hubby to be says it’s a reception, i say it’s a party!), the saree type and colour, the  wedding gown design and fabric, the food, the wedding favours, the flowers for the church, church documents, the deco … the list goes on.  Even the engagement ring!

Yes, i went to the jewellers, identified the right diamond size (yes people, the Hearts on Fire diamond range is super!), the right bands to go with it, even to call boyfriend to enquire if it was within budget… and i even paid the downpayment and waited for boyfriend (at that time) to come home and officially put it on me! Talk about being practical… but he was kewl about it … the moment he touched down at the airport,  we went and got the ring! He says he wanted to make sure i’m all his… hahahahahaha…

But since i said i wanted him to go down on his knees… he did so at his cousin’s place with his usual group of friends around … you’d think we were getting married instead of getting engaged by the way his friends were carrying on! Sorry luv, i cant remember very much what you said cos i was too busy doubling up with laughter at the antics of everyone… yeah even the photos didnt come out  cos there were no lights and the phone’s camera didnt come with a flash! Yes, it was quite hilarious and something i’d definitely remember!

With some friends, i went through a hilarious process of me trying out different designer gowns and them sitting like queens, giving their comments. It was literally like a scene from “Say Yes to the Dress” program. But with all the “ooohs” and “aaaahs” to “I’m not wearing that!”… we found the right design and even the veil which is a  cathedral veil version… kewl! Truth be told … during these intense times (even family can be quite tiresome!)… friends are who ones turns to to find relief…

So, after a month or more of intense looking around, phone calls and staying away from people with negative energy, i sorted out the basic stuff! hhhmmm…. well, at least some parts of it, thanks to Weddings by Martha Stewart! Seriously, the magazines and her websites have loads of helpful info and ideas… great stuff!

And i’ve decided to take a bit of rest for now… well not really, since i’ve now got to sort out more details on the invitation cards etc … sigh … it never ends… and its even more difficult and hubby to be … hhhmmmmm HMB for short, is miles away in a different country and is only back once a month (or so) to see what’s happening and make decisions… yeah emails are fine, but its different with HMB in the flesh not around…

However, i must say, if it wasnt that i also had a day job which was also quite stressful, i’d really would have been in a better mood. But really, thank goodness for some friends who kept me sane for a bit … but i must say, it’s really true what all self help books have to say about leading a better life… think positive and keep the negativity away… even those who hand out “helpful” advice, just take it with a pinch of salt

Hence, it is also one of the many reasons why only a few close friends know about this upcoming happy day. I’d rather just have very close ones in the know, then the whole universe of friends. It’s something i’d just want to share with those who have bothered to keep in touch and stay in touch, rather than those who only provide smart aleck remarks when one least needs it.

And to top it off… we just got news that HMB’s uncle is in the last stages of life… cancer. I wonder how this will affect the wedding prep? Custom has it there’s the one year of mourning… but this affects the brothers, not the sisters etc or something like that. Will just have to wait and see what happens next.